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“Be free – I love you”

I do not change as I grow older. I simply, become more me.

” Put love out into the universe and be 100% authentic. Nearly all the pain or dissatisfaction in your life is the result of being inauthentic or assigning meaning to things. And don’t worry if you “screw up” and are unloving or if someone else “screws up” and is unloving, it doesn’t mean anything. Just resolve it by being honest and authentic and don’t waste your time trying to attribute meaning to it.’

That’s all it’s ever been and all it ever will be…

The only way the opinions or opposition of others could bring you down is if you’re basing your identity or worth on their opinion. And if you’re finding your identity or worth in others, you’re in for a lifetime of misery and instability.

If you’re authentic and honest with someone, and coming from a place of love and it’s not reciprocated, then that has nothing to do with you. It doesn’t mean anything for someone not to return your love and authenticity, it just is.Trying to figure out why they’re doing what they’re doing or why they did what they did is pointless. It means nothing about who you are or who they are, and attempting to attribute meaning to such things is the source of nearly all our pain.

“it means I’m unlovable”
“It means I’m a bad person / friend / roommate”
“It means I’m a bad son/mother/father/sibling/etc”
“It means there’s something wrong with me”
“It means I’m a victim”
“It means I’ll never have a normal life”
“It means I’ll never realize my dreams”
“It means things will never change”
“It means I’m wrong”

These are the types of things we attribute as meaning, but there is simply NOTHING in this universe that can make you anything but who you authentically are, the purest you, the most perfect you, the unhindered, unfettered YOU.Anything that tempts you to believe you are anything but FREE and in total control of your life is 100% Bullshit, and what’s more, it’s Bullshit created inside your mind, and you’re not your mind, which means you’re in the position to call the Bullshit what it is and shovel it out, or at least pay it no attention.

If you’re longing for something that isn’t there, longing for things to be different, then that’s your own self imposed prison. Nobody can make you”feel” inadequate, alone, unwanted, bad, etc you can only choose to impose such things on yourself.

“But I can’t help feeling _____ ” you might say. And that is true,you can’t always control the feelings that pop up in your body, but you aren’t your body, and you aren’t your feelings. And the pain you feel, the discomfort you feel is not from feelings, it’s from your “interpretation” of what the feelings mean. And it’s also from resisting the feelings, trying to change them, trying to hide them. Two people can experience the same emotion,and to one person it’s unpleasant, to the other it’s pleasant, it’s all about the lens you view it through.

Stop trying to change things, it doesn’t work. What you resist persists. If I lean against you and you resist me, and I keep leaning harder, and you keep resisting harder, you’ll be holding me up with all your strength, becoming more and more fatigued, and in the end, we will likely both tumble.
But, if instead of resisting me, you give in, or move slightly out of the way,I’ll fall and you’ll be left standing, effort free.

That’s what “what you resist persists” means. It means if you keep trying to change things, you’ll never be happy, and you’ll constantly be exhausted. But if you accept things for how they are and realize it means nothing, then you can begin to invent possibilities and create the life of your dreams within that newly found blank slate in your life that was once occupied by imaginary frameworks, constraints, and struggles.

Start living the life of your dreams now, stop worrying what others”might” be thinking and what it “might” mean. You are who you are, no matter what, so just be yourself and be free.

I love You. ”


Hello there ..

New year, new nothing ….
Unless you get your ass to work and make it happen.

Hello there 2017.

Shots Of People Before and After Being Told They’re Beautiful

Travel photographer Mehmet Genç gives us the gift of these photos he’s taken from around the world… [via incredible things]






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Choosing between adaptive vs. responsive design

Often I see, designers presenting both versions of the design to clients, however I believe that choosing the right style at the outset, is the key to executing the design with better direction and focus on results.



Responsive design:

A responsive website will show content based on the available browser real estate. A responsive site on the desktop will move dynamically and arrange itself, as you change the size of the browser window. This process is automatic, on mobile phones – where the site verifies the available space to presents itself in an ideal arrangement.


Responsive design


As a concept responsive design is pretty straightforward, as it is very fluid the user gets a seamless view of the site on a handheld as they would on a large screen.  To implement this in theory, requires deep understanding of the client and the end users and also in depth visual conceptualization of the site from early on.

Example: The Microsoft website is a great example to check the features of a responsive site.


Adaptive design:

While responsive design, is about changing the design pattern to fit the screen – adaptive design relies on multiple fixed layout sizes. The site/app detects the available real estate and then displays the layout most relevant to the screen. In such a scenario, resizing the browser will have no impact on the design and layout on display.


In adaptive design, it’s normal to develop six designs for the six most common screen widths; 320, 480, 760, 960, 1200, and 1600 pixels. This style of design is in demand for e-commerce websites, where businesses require handheld device- optimised websites. So much so, that popular UX design tools now come with predefined template sizes for each device.

Example: Amazon is a great example to check the features of an adaptive site over various devices.

Choosing between the two 

Note: I’d like to point out here, that there is also a third option, which is still relevant although losing out on popularity. This is the ‘Standalone Mobile Design’. You would have seen mobile only websites – these are usually denoted in the URL bar of a browser using the “m.” prefix. Once a design alternative of choice ( even Google used to enable search engine rankings to such sites), this option is falling out of favour, as it requires double the effort to maintain two versions of the same site.

Coming back to choosing between a responsive versus an adaptive design, a broad stroke would imply that if designing a website for high mobile web browsing – responsive web design is a goof fit. Similarly for mobile features that rely on touch, the accelerometer or geolocation, adaptive website design may be required.

While broad generalizations can be made,  the solution needs to be flexible on a case by case basis.

The case for responsive design:


  • Responsive is easier to design as it is essentially a flexible flow elements
  • Takes less work to implement
  • Easy to find pre-designed templates
  • Uniform and seamless transition when viewed on different screen sizes
  • SEO friendly


  • Lesser control of design, on each screen size
  • Lot’s of testing is needed to ensure that visual hierarchy is manintained as elements are shuffled on screen screensizes
  • Advertisement sizes need not translate well on smaller screens
  • Flexibility of images needs to be considered – like enabling preview images for smaller screens
  • Longer mobile download times

The case for adaptive design:


  • Tailormade screen solutions
  • Better user experience, as the display adapt’s to the users situational needs and capabilities
  • Better for touch friendly interface
  • Can be designed to optimise advertisements
  • Adaptive sites are often 2-3 times faster than responsive ones


  • Lesser data is presented o user, but this is a small price for increased convinience
  • Usually a lot more work – six designs are th current standard, but it could vary
  • Tablet and notebpk users need to be provided with option to togge between available versions, as this ‘mid’size’ segment is often neglected
  • SEO challenged – most search engines still don’t rank identical content over multiple URLs equally

2030 – it seems so far away, but it’s only 15 years ..


The BBC documentary is a revealing consolidation of events from recent decades, and a dark dive into the world today and why it is so. With power, politics and human nature  at it’s center, we witness how the world we have now, took shape in deeply lasting ways through the actions of a few – some of whom still alive.

The tone, mood, background score and narration feel like a journey through a modern museum – one of our very recent times.

The narrative takes us through New York and Damascus from 1975 , covering the Reagan years, the Assads, the rise /fall/rise of Gaddafi’s role and the phenomenon of Trump.

Names, places and events that have been central to mainstream news for decades unravel from their infancy to their growing consequences in all glory – strung together to make a cause and effect narration.


“We have retreated into a simplified and often completely fake version of the world”


The film alternates real documented footage of bombings, fitness workouts, the images of a prim & proper Russia to show a surreal projection of our reality.

This is a necessary film to assimilate. Almost everything you see, would be news you might have read at some point – but this documentary connects the dots of the various social, political, religious and cultural agents that have landed us in the current world situation

“You were so much a part of the system that you were unable to see beyond it,”


2030 – it seems so far away, but it’s only 15 years. The events and actions that we witness and perpetuate today, will create a world that we could be proud of, or look at with dismay

The most telling moment in the documentary for me was the montage of “Holy crap ..” moments from early disaster movies, following by silence and a clip of 9/11.

Go watch.


One questions that pops up quite often in a geographically diverse group is ” Does the caste system really still exist in India? “.

It is rather sad to admit, that discrimination which denies many of dignity and basic human rights is still a reality, only just hidden from mainstream urban culture of India.

‘Dalit’ – a word derived from the Sanskrit word ‘dalita’, meaning ‘crushed’ or ‘destroyed’ – even the word that is used to identify them tells a story of oppression.

Early in August this year, thousands of Dalit’s started a march from Ahmedadbad to Una.  Organisers said the march called ‘Aazadi Koon’ (March for Freedom) has been planned to galvanise the community and will cover a distance of around 350 km.

This wasn’t a first of it’s kind uprising. Dalits have been fighting for basic rights from the time of India’s independence. And yet, the extent of the indignation, even now, is palpable even through the charcoal words of newsprint.

The underprivileged minorities often have it tough, even when they want their voices to be heard, a marathon task, quite literally in this case.

Some facts:

  • This march was triggered as a reaction to the “mob justice” met out by ‘gau rakshaks’ on 4 Dalit men. These men were merely doing their job of skinning an already dead cow ( in this case the cow had died of an lion attack)
  • Dalit families usually skin dead animals and sell the leather they procure, to supplement their often meager incomes
  • Away from the glitz of urban India, Dalits still struggle for decent job opportunities and most are left with no options other than working as landless labourers or as manual scavengers
  • Since the march, a large number of Dalits have given up cleaning and skinning cow carcasses, leading to sanitation concerns in some parts of the country
  • If Dalits were allocated the land as per the Land Ceiling Act, most would not depend on side gigs to support their families. Except, the lands officially allocated never really reached them, instead it was encroached by the people in authority.

For the Dalits of India, the fight is real and one that continues as a daily struggle even today.

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Guest Post: One day in New York

When you visit the Big Apple, you’ll know why they call it the city that never sleeps. Only here can you ride the subway at 6 am and be met by a train full of bright eyed bankers with their morning coffee in tow, nurses in scrubs coming home from the late-shift, and extreme partiers stumbling home just before dawn. You can come here and check off the Trip Advisor bucket list, because why wouldn’t you want to see the Statue of Liberty or 9/11 Memorial? Or you can also come here and experience life like a local. If you give yourself at least one day to explore the city as a New Yorker would, here’s just a sampling of what you might encounter.

You wake up and grab a bagel from the corner deli, probably smothered in cream-cheese. There’s often 30 flavors to choose from, so the sweet-tooth among us will likely want to try the cinnamon raisin or strawberry variety, but if you’re craving something extra sweet, Nutella or cake batter flavored cream-cheeses are not hard to come by. Some bagel shops even make rainbow bagels these days which are really the talk of the town (confession: they taste just like any other bagel, cost way more, but make for a pretty picture to Instagram). If you’re more of a savory person, grab an egg and cheese sandwich on a roll with “SPK” (salt, pepper & ketchup).


Then it’s time to hit the town. If it’s a nice day, I always recommend touring the Highline. It’s the most touristy thing a real New Yorker actually enjoys (that, and the Brooklyn Bridge). You’ll find us sunbathing in the lounge chairs soaking up a good book, or sitting atop the Gansevoort overlook watching cars whizz by below.


Beneath the Highline, right next to the Standard Hotel, you’ll find what looks to be an ordinary Samsung store. It’s actually their flagship, Samsung 837, and a really cool immersive experience. Best of all, it’s free!

Head inside the store to experience virtual reality on a roller coaster stimulator, get your picture taken by a camera that compiles thousands of photographs from those who went before you (and puts your face up on a 2 story wall), or, especially awesome is their Instagram immersion tunnel. You walk through a tube of glass that fills up with your own pictures, words and memories. It’s a surreal experience.


If you’re feeling hungry after all that walking, you may want to grab a NY slice. There are so many delicious places to get pizza in NYC that it’s hard for us New Yorkers to agree on what’s the very best. Some say Artichoke is their favorite – you can try it if you want, especially because it’s right by the Samsung store anyhow. For me, it’s gotta be Two Bros. They’re everywhere, and only charge $1 a slice. That’s the way to go.

No trip to NYC is complete without a few iconic views of the skyline. As a Queens resident myself, I’m partial to the borough, so I recommend taking the 7 train to Vernon Boulevard/Jackson Avenue in Long Island City. Hop off and walk towards the East River. You’ll be at Gantry Park in minutes, one of my favorite hidden gems in the whole city. It’s the site of the iconic Pepsi Cola sign that can be seen from most of Manhattan’s east side, and it’s also a really great place to walk, talk and hang out with friends and family alike while gawking at our beautiful skyline.


Near Gantry is another spot I love, MOMA PS1. It’s an offset of the Museum of Modern Art, similarly to the Cloisters’ extension of the MET. It’s a great art museum even for the architecture of the site itself, not to mention that on Sundays in the summer they are often host to a fun daytime party, Sunday Sessions.

Depending on how adventurous of a foodie you are, you can head deeper into Queens to visit Jackson Heights for some of the city’s best Colombian, Mexican, Indian and Thai food, or onward to Flushing for a far less touristy version of Chinatown, complete with Vietnamese, Japanese and Korean cuisine, too.

Or maybe it’s time to check out Brooklyn?If you’re as addicted to street art as I am (seriously, what better way to get a sense of culture), Bushwick is a must. The Bushwick Collective is a group of very talented artists who have adorned the neighborhood with murals that take up city blocks, like this one just outside the Jefferson stop on the L train.



Nights in New York are like another world. You can visit a comedy club, order bottle service at a lavish dance floor, hit up a dive bar, watch a Broadway show…the options are endless. I would definitely recommend checking out a speakeasy, because there are few places in the world where you can walk into a hardware store to find that it’s actually a bar (Last Word in Astoria).

Maybe try a delicious hotdog from Criff Dogs on St. Mark’s Place. See that London phone booth in the corner? It’s not just a prop. It’s the entrance to yet another speakeasy, Please Don’t Tell, or PDT for the even more exclusive amongst us. You could spend your whole night hopping from speakeasy to speakeasy if you wanted to.


Most visitors ask me if New York is more of a bar city or club city. When they do, I always respond, “Neither. It’s a rooftop city.” At some point in the evening, you have to head to a rooftop to catch the sunset, or see the city illuminated by its nighttime glow. 230 5th is open year round, so yes, you can even sip on a fancy cocktail with the Empire State building as your backdrop when it’s snowing. They offer complimentary red robes to wear when it’s chilly and the outdoor deck is filled with heat lamps. Mr. Purple is a fan favorite downtown in the Lower East Side, as well as Loopy Doopy in the Financial District, which serves a famous cocktail with upside down popsicles. For a dancy vibe, hit Le Bain, PHD or the Gansevoort in Meatpacking District.

If $20 cocktails aren’t your thing, try the roof at Output in Brooklyn. You still get a great view of the city, but here you won’t have to dress up. Locals love Output – it’s a fun place to dance, always features prominent DJs, and not to mention the sound system is amazing. The club downstairs pulsates with the sounds of house music well into the early morning, often staying open to let the diehards trickle out after closing at 4 am. The best part is their no cell phone policy. This means everyone around you will actually be dancing instead of Snapchatting the whole night and holding sparklers in their mouths.

No matter how you choose to spend your day, week or month in NYC, I hope you come to love the city I call home, and, maybe I’m biased, but one of the best cities in the world!


About the author:



Olivia is a born and raised New Yorker with a passion for other cultures. She loves meeting new people and trying new foods, be that here in her own backyard or overseas at any number of the countries she’s visited.

She’s touched down on 5 of 7 continents so far and hopes to get to them all someday. When she’s not traveling, Olivia enjoys photography, attending concerts, painting in the park and going on a good hike with her friends.